Series: Pocket Books for Men, Book 1 -part 2

What on Earth was God Thinking?


       When I ask for God’s help He always presents me with the most difficult challenge first. When I reach knowledge, revelation and understanding, everything after that is a piece of cake.

       I have a friend who asked God to help her really understand love. Guess where she is having the greatest testing? Yes, of course, her marriage relationship.

I promise you; when my friend attains the revelation of love in her marriage she will surely walk in the perfection of love she so desires in all other relationships, including her relationship with her Lord and Savior.

       God will always give us the hardest task first. Once we master the most difficult assignment, everything after that will be a piece of cake.  Just ask Him to give you patience and see what happens in your life. You will think all hell has broken loose as you are bombarded with every niggling thing that tests your patience.

Ask Him to help you in your marriage and you will be faced with the greatest challenge of your life. I repeat: If you master it, every relationship after that will be so much easier to understand and interact with. Relationships outside of marriage–if one does not like them–can be discarded or graciously avoided. Marriage is God’s ultimate training ground for life here on earth.

Personally, after one divorce, I desperately wanted to understand and know how to make a good, and lasting marriage. I was not about to throw in the towel the second time. I looked at Christians and figured they must know something I didn’t know, and absolutely, God knew something I didn’t know! Almost failing a second time is what drove me to God, from confirmed, stoic atheist to, “If you are there, God, show me”...and He did.      

       Love was my friend’s motive for God to take her and remake her, renewing her mind and taking away her stony heart. He chose her marriage as her school ground. For me it was being a good wife and mother and making a good home environment. OOOOOOH what we ask God for! It takes two…


       So let’s talk about the most challenging and difficult subject first….

 D I V O R C E….

Dear Monday, I want to break up,

I’m seeing Tuesday and dreaming about Friday.


It’s not me it’s you.

Joy and Clyd Facebook March 9, 2020

Canada’s Divorce Statistics (2018):

***38% of Canadian couples continue to quit before they develop the character God has set in place for a man and a woman.

***According to the latest Statistics Canada data, approximately 38 per cent of all marriages end in divorce…. While the total divorce rate has been steady, there has been a steady increase in the divorce rate for three-year marriages.

Nov 9, 2018 Divorce Rates in Canada – M.J. O’Nions

My observation here is that these statistics do not include common-law couples who separate after years of common-law cohabitation. Christians included.

       To be considered commonlaw partners, they must have cohabited for at least one year. This is the standard definition used across the federal government. It means continuous cohabitation for one year, not intermittent cohabitation adding up to one year. Jan 2, 2019

Assessing a common-law relationship –

       Don’t be fooled by the common-law option. There can be complicated legal issues if you decide to part company, both regarding mutual children and common property, Not much different than divorce….


GOD HAS directed me, as a mother, to bring to your attention His STRONGEST FEELINGS ABOUT DIVORCE…. He is reaching out here to the 38% of you, to gather you to Himself and exhort you to come to repentance and seek His ways so that it will be well with you…and your children after you.


Matt 19:3-9

3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?”

4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 

5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 

6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

7 They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”

8 He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness (stoniness) of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 

9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

Ezek 36:26

26 I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. )

       There are so many scriptures that I could quote. I am sure you have read them all at one time or another. I am only including here what I believe the Father is speaking to me to write. I believe this is a time when He is calling his men of valor to repent and to renew their minds with His Word and His ways…. If you will repent, He will take away your stony heart and give you a heart of flesh and you will see and hear with renewed strength and valor, bringing healing and restoration to the most important relationship you will ever embrace. Stony hearts are renewable and healable. It is not a permanent condition.

Assignment: watch movies The Case for Christ, the story of a journalist’s pursuit to prove Jesus was a hoax and the strain it put on his marriage; I Can Only Imagine, from hatred and unforgiveness to total forgiveness and love; A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood, a broken, stony heart, coming  to repentance and forgiveness. All based on true accounts.

God is in the business of changing hearts and minds. Nothing is too difficult for our Heavenly Father. His ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts than our thoughts. If you ask Him, He will do it.


Series: Pocket Books for Men, Book 1 part 3…Divorce Fallout…

2 thoughts on “Series: Pocket Books for Men, Book 1 -part 2”

    1. Good morning. Thank you for leaving a comment. As brief as your response is, I see question marks and wondering. If there is anything in this article that I might clarify, please get back to me. It is my privelege to write for men for such a time as this. Men need support and encouragement (courage) today more than any time in recent history. Although I argued with God when He instructed me to write for men, He added “Go with the heart of a mother.” What an amazing honor! If there is any man that you think might benefit from my messages, please pass on the website to them. Again, as a “mother” I am honored to speak strength, hope, courage, tenacity, faith and whatever else I might have insight for, to any man who would benefit. Alison Teed (Thank again for your comment.)

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